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4 Life Lessons Learned at the San Diego Zoo

My career at the San Diego Zoo started back in 1978. As a child, I often visited this zoo, and getting a job there was a dream come true. At first, I didn’t know much about the issues facing wildlife, but I quickly learned that many species were—and still are—in trouble and desperately need our help.

Initially, I worked in public relations and fundraising. Then, in 2017, I helped launch the San Diego Zoo Global Press, which publishes books for adults and children. I write the Hope and Inspiration children’s series, which features true stories about animals at the zoo and its Safari Park that have overcome challenges and hardships in their lives. The animals I write about hold a special place in my heart.

I wanted these books to introduce children to a specific animal, help them grow to love that animal and then teach them the importance of protecting all animals. The books have had a greater impact than I ever expected: Young readers have learned important life lessons through the stories. To be honest, so have I.

Friendship Heals

The zoo has paired cheetahs and dogs as animal ambassadors since the 1980s. Cheetahs are shy and nervous and need the comfort of their canine companions. Because the cub and pup are raised together, they form strong, lifelong bonds. Ruuxa, a cheetah cub at the Safari Park, and Raina, a Rhodesian ridgeback puppy, were like brother and sister from the start. Keepers noticed that young Ruuxa’s legs were bowed. Veterinarians were unsure if he’d ever be able to run, even after surgery, but no one told Ruuxa he couldn’t. With Raina by his side during recovery, it wasn’t long before he was running at top speed.

When Raina was two, veterinarians discovered several tumors in her body and diagnosed her with terminal cancer. Raina had just months to live! Trainers were heartbroken for her and worried how Ruuxa would do without her. They brought in Little Rae, a Rhodesian ridgeback puppy, hoping this new friend would be there for Ruuxa when Raina was gone.

Then something amazing happened: Raina didn’t die. She didn’t even seem sick anymore. Another scan showed that the two smaller tumors had disappeared and the larger tumor had shrunk enough so it could be removed. Three rounds of chemotherapy later, she was cancer-free. Today Ruuxa, Raina and Little Rae live together. Their friendship reminds me to believe in miracles.

Courage is Contagious

Karen, a Sumatran orangutan, was raised by keepers because her mother wasn’t able to nurse her. At a year old, Karen wasn’t growing as quickly as she should have been. Veterinarians discovered a penny-size hole in her heart. She needed open-heart surgery, which had never been done on an orangutan.

Two of the world’s top cardiac surgeons volunteered to repair Karen’s heart. For two weeks following the surgery, Karen remained on a ventilator because of a lung infection, and doctors were concerned she might not survive. Finally, she started breathing on her own.

Karen’s story was all over the news. Letters poured in from around the world. One get-well card came from a five-year-old girl named Jennie, who was fighting leukemia. She promised to visit Karen as soon as she was well enough. Jennie beat cancer and grew up to become an emergency room nurse. To this day, Jennie still visits Karen at the zoo every chance she gets. Sharing the challenges we face can help others summon the bravery to overcome their own challenges.

Make the Most of What You’ve Been Given

Seven years ago, Floyd the flamingo was hatched and started his training to be an animal ambassador at the zoo. As Floyd grew, his caretakers noticed that his legs were crooked, and it looked as if he had two left feet. He went through a series of surgeries to straighten his legs. Still, no one was sure Floyd would ever walk again. He worked hard to regain his strength and balance, and when he took his first steps on his own, his trainers cried with joy. Floyd rejoined his flock and returned to his job as an animal ambassador.

One day last December, Floyd fell. His legs were injured so badly, there was nothing veterinarians could do. It was devastating to lose Floyd, but he lived seven wonderful years—time he never would have had if he hadn’t persevered. He showed me that life isn’t always easy, but it’s always worth living.

It’s Never Too Late to Fulfill Your Purpose

When Mosi Musa, a vervet monkey, was born, his mother showed no interest in caring for him. But his grandma, Thelma, was drawn to him. She cuddled and held him and taught him to be a monkey. Mosi grew confident and independent, thanks to his grandma, and soon he was able to live full-time with his vervet family.

Eventually Thelma’s health failed. I visited her shortly before she died. Even in her weakened state, she continued to be protective of Mosi. She fulfilled her purpose until the end. Thelma reminded me that we’re never too old to make a difference, a message that resonates with me as I approach an age at which many people retire. I love what I do and plan to help animals for as long as I can.

These days I’m busy observing and sometimes photographing close to 10 animals for future children’s books. There’s something fascinating about not knowing how each story will turn out. It’s a lot like life, I guess—not knowing where it will go is part of the adventure.

I’ve learned so much about different species over the course of my career. All I’ve ever wanted to do was share that knowledge. That’s why I started writing these books, to teach people about animals. As it turns out, the animals are the real teachers.

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46 Years Later, a Heartwarming Father-Son Reunion

Bob Nore: Hi, Guideposts. I’m Bob Nore, and this is my son, Son Vo. I first met Son Vo at the age of 46, when I found out he was my son. This was through ancestry.com, where his wife got him a DNA kit and my wife got me a DNA kit. We live 3000 miles apart. What are the chances of both of us taking the DNA test and finding out that we have a father-son relationship?

Son Vo: Well, when I got that email I was actually…I thought I was being punked, in a sense. You know, as I absorbed it more, I finally realized, Yeah, OK, this is my father. I guess I should probably reply and reach out, so I did. And then later on, he reached out.

Bob: Well, I was stunned. I thought, I really don’t know if he wants to have a father, or if he even wants to know anything about me. So I thought I would wait until he made the first move, and then I would respond.

Son: I think it was on our first phone call, right? We’d started talking, and then I told him I’m a musician. I think you asked what I played. And then I said, “I play bass.” And then he said, hey, I play bass too. I think that just kind of just opened up the conversation. I believe that’s when you said, right, that “He must be my son.” Or something to that effect. There you have it, you know? It’s confirmed.

Bob: Well, I was convinced from the beginning that Son was my son. The DNA just doesn’t lie. The time that I was in Vietnam was right. So there was no doubt in my mind that he was my son. And I wanted a relationship, if he would have it.

Son: Well, you got it. [laughs]

Bob: Yeah.

Son: To me, it was—I mean, it was intense. You know, it’s my dad. I don’t know what a dad is until that very moment; I never had that really. So it was it was intense. And it was obviously just an introductory phone call, so we were really just kind of getting to know each other. Kind of just feeling ourselves out. And what struck me was we talk alike. Our cadence, our pauses, how we, I don’t know—it was uncanny.

Bob: It really hit me, and I know I broke down and cried for a while.

Son: I had the phone call. It could’ve been like, a week? Two weeks later? I went to a gig on a Sunday, and as I was driving home, it all just hit me. The floodgates opened. And I was just bawling as I’m driving, it’s steaming up my glasses, and I missed my turn. I was, like, “Where am I? I don’t even know where I am. Oh my God, I found my dad.”

We went there—I think it was last year, right? A little over a year ago?

Bob: The year before.

Son: Yeah, we actually did go up there.

Bob: We did walk through the streets of Saigon, just trying to reconnect with the places that I’d been there.

Son: Because that was the first time that I’d been back since I left as a child. So some of the streets, like, it just—you know, it’s those memories. The smells, the visuals. You’re, like, “Oh my God, I do remember; this is how it was.” And it just goes right back to being two or three years old. It was really interesting. And it was cool. It was cool that we did that together. That was really cool.

It’s quite miraculous, and just the confluence of the whole idea of technology and DNA being able to help.

Bob: And I think that time there were not too many people that had taken the DNA test, so it was really strange that they linked us.

Son: Yeah. I mean, to tell you the truth, I had actually lost faith in finding my father. I had the wrong name, because my mom gave me a name that she thought was my father. So I’d been looking under that name. And it just got to that point where I said, “You know what? I don’t think this is going to happen.” And so I just kind of said, “You know what? I’m going to just have to let go.”

It’s interesting that when you lose faith, but if you also let go, all of a sudden the gates open and in comes a miracle.

Bob and Son: [singing] When I want you in my arms,
When I want you and all your charms,
Whenever I want you, all I have to do
Is dream—dream, dream, dream.
When I feel blue…
[fade out]

3 Ways to Be an Authentically Positive Friend

“Being honest may not get you a lot of friends,” John Lennon is quoted as saying, “but it will get you the right ones.” Lennon, whose friendship with fellow Beatle Paul McCartney was legendary but also famously fraught, challenges us with these words. Where is the line, he asks us to consider, between being honest with hard truths friends might not want to hear, and doing your part to cultivate healthy, lasting friendships?

Today, we might look at this as a challenge to strive for “authentic positivity” in our friendships, the opposite of a toxic positivity that would have us encouraging friends in all things, regardless of what we might feel or observe or know about the challenges of life.

1) Ask Questions
A hallmark of authentic positivity is a curious mindset, a mentality where you are less locked into “telling it like it is” and more interested in wondering and exploring the possibilities together with your friend. Positive friends ask each other questions, and listen deeply to the answers. If your friendship has a history of welcome advice-giving, your question could be, “Are you looking for ideas, or do you just want me to listen?”

2) Name Hard Truths
“That’s so disappointing” is sometimes the most positive thing you can say to your friend when they are struggling. Resisting the urge to say, “It’s all going to work out, don’t worry” shows your friend that you see them in their pain, and that you are available to support them in the here and now. That’s not to say you need to dwell in the negative. You can use “yes/and” statements like, “It’s so frustrating that happened at work—AND I know how creative you are, that you’ll find a way to move forward.”

3) Learn to Apologize—and Ask for an Apology
Every friend misses the mark sometimes. Spoiler alert—that includes you, too. Being authentic in a friendship means having the freedom to say to a friend, “I’m sorry I hurt you.” It also means being able to say, “your words/actions hurt me.” Friendships that stand the test of time have room for mistakes, and for repair.

What do your most positive friendships have in common?

3 Ways for Teens to Cultivate True Beauty

True Beauty. What does it mean to you? Is beauty in the eyes of the beholder? Is it only skin deep? Does it matter to you?

As women, young and old, we are bombarded by images around the world to be beautiful. It must be important to us because we spend 426 billion dollars a year on beauty products. That’s a lot of money.

The reality is our society idealizes attractive supermodels, athletes, pop stars and celebrities. Teens often focus on their physical appearance and forget to weigh their inner strengths because of what the media feeds them.

They strive to look like their role models. They don’t realize that most of the images have been altered and many of the celebrities have very good plastic surgeons.

So how do we as parents and grandparents help our teen daughters focus on the inside qualities of a person?

1. If you know your daughter’s passions, there you will find her inner beauty and help her concentrate on what she loves. Is she a musician? Does she love animals? Does she love children? What does she want to do or achieve in life? Take time to find out what she loves and what her life passion is.

2. Be the person who encourages her to pursue this passion even further. This is where her true inner beauty will shine. This is where she will find the truth about beauty the media skews through its manipulation of imagery.

3. True beauty includes not only a healthy lifestyle, eating right and exercising but also sharing our unique qualities, characteristics, gifts and talents with others in the pursuit of making a difference in the world.

I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
 your works are wonderful,
 I know that full well. (Psalm 139:14, NIV)

3 Things You Should Know About Military Culture

Today’s guest blogger is Dr. Laurel Shaler.

Years ago, early in my marriage, my Navy husband was stationed on a ship that required he stand watch pretty regularly. One day, I decided to visit him on the ship during his watch duty. After a brief visit, I made my way across the deck to leave. Having watched many sailors stop at the top of the ramp before exiting the ship in order to salute the watch guard, I decided to be silly and salute to my husband as I left. I made two major faux pas: I am not in the military and should not have been saluting; I saluted with my left hand.

You can imagine how appalled my husband was! The military has its own rules and regulations, but more than that, it has its own culture. I went against it all the day of the left-hand salute (as we now call it). Thankfully, I’ve learned a lot more about military culture since then, including:

1. Honor
Those who are serving or who have served in the Armed Forces consider it a privilege. They do not ask for anything in return but do strive to honor one another for the sacrifice. Veterans don’t like being honored on Memorial Day as that day is reserved for those who died while serving our country or as a result of serving our country.

2. Loyalty
Service members and veterans are loyal to one another. They find their military experience to be unifying and identify as brothers and sisters. They strive to help one another out and grieve when one dies even if they have never met him or her.

3. Commitment
While military personnel are committed to one another, it might be said they are most committed to their sense of duty. Their service is a choice, and they are dedicated to the call to protect the United States of America.

While there are many facets to military culture–such as organization and norms–these three non-tangible attributes are ingrained in service members and play a major role in their service and life. Understanding these three can help you better connect with the military personnel in your life. But regardless of how close you are, don’t try a left-handed salute. That will not win you any military friends. Take it from me!

Dr. Laurel Shaler is a certified counselor and licensed social worker. She is the author of Reclaiming Sanity: Hope and Healing for Trauma, Stress, and Overwhelming Life Events.

3 Bible Verses About God’s Presence

I learned an important lesson many years ago when our oldest son, Jeremy, was in elementary school. The school had planned a special program, and since he had to be there early, Jeremy rode with our neighbors and their daughter.

My husband and I arrived a little later and took seats near the middle of the auditorium. Soon the children filed onto the stage. That’s when I noticed our son’s head turning back and forth as if he were at a tennis tournament. I knew he was looking for us.

His face lit up when he finally spotted us, and then he never looked our way again throughout the program. But I realized something: He might not ever say so, but it was important to him that we were there.

I thought of that this morning as I attended my little granddaughter’s end-of-school award ceremony. I’m on a tight deadline to finish a book, I had an article to write, a conference call for which I needed to prepare, and numerous other tasks that all had to be done by the end of the week, so I didn’t really have time to give up half a day.

But I knew it was important to be there.

The same is true in our lives. No matter what we go through—serious illness, financial difficulties, loneliness, a prodigal child or broken dreams—simply knowing that God is there with us can make all the difference. And He promises us in His Word that we can count on that:

1) Isaiah 41:10
“Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”

2) Deuteronomy 31:8
“It is the Lord who goes before you. He will be with you; he will not leave you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed.”

3) Joshua 1:9
“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”

I’m so grateful for a God who understands how important it is for Him to always be there for us whenever we need or want Him. Aren’t you?

25 Valentine’s Day Quotes to Inspire Your Love

This February 14th, everyone is searching for beautiful and meaningful Valentine’s Day quotes to share with their loved ones. But why are these quotes important for celebrating this holiday of love?

What is Valentine’s Day?

Valentine’s Day is an annual holiday dedicated to celebrating love. It is named after Saint Valentine, a Roman priest who lived during the 3rd century; he was the patron saint of lovers, epileptics, and beekeepers, among other things. Every year, Valentine’s Day takes place on February 14th because this is Saint Valentine’s feast day.

The historical reason Valentine’s Day celebrations and traditions came to be is hard to pin down. According to Britannica, this date has been viewed as a day for people to celebrate love as well as the coming of the spring season since the 14th century. Since then, it has evolved throughout time and various cultures to become the modern Valentine’s Day we know today—one that focuses on romance, gift giving, and expressing sentiments of love.

While some may view Valentine’s Day as a commercialized holiday to sell greeting cards, flowers, and chocolate, we shouldn’t overlook its importance. Valentine’s Day is an occasion to celebrate love in its many forms—divine, romantic, platonic, and familial. The day is about telling the people in our lives how much we love and appreciate them. True, this is a practice we should try to bring into every day of our lives—not just February 14—but a dedicated day is something to celebrate as well.

We hope these beautiful Valentine’s Day quotes bring you inspiration and joy in this season of love.

READ MORE: 8 Fun Valentine’s Day Traditions for Newlyweds

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Why Read Valentine’s Day Quotes?

Reading Valentine’s Day quotes from the minds of poets, writers, and artists can remind us of the importance of love. They show how love can heal us, give us joy, bring us together, and fill us with hope.

We can also use Valentine’s Day quotes to inspire our own writings about love. If you are hoping to write a love letter to your partner, or a note of gratitude to a close friend, find encouragement in the words of those before you. Just be sure to keep your own letters of love truthful and unique to the relationship you share with your loved one.

We hope these beautiful Valentine’s Day quotes bring you inspiration and joy in the season of love.

READ MORE: 50 Best Bible Verses About Love and Devotion

Happy Valentine’s Day Quotes

  • Oh, if it be to choose and call thee mine, love, thou art every day my Valentine! —Thomas Hood, poet
  • Love recognizes no barriers, it jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination, full of hope. —Maya Angelou, memoirist
  • Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. —Corinthians 13:4-8
Young couple on a date at a coffee shop discussing Valentine's Day quotes

First Valentine’s Day Quotes

  • Love is when you meet someone who tells you something new about yourself. —Andre Breton, author and poet
  • The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in. —Morrie Schwartz, sociology professor and author
  • Love makes your soul crawl out from its hiding place. —Zora Neale Hurston
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Funny Valentine’s Day Quotes

  • Without Valentine’s Day, February would be…well, January. Jim Gaffigan, comedian
  • Just last week I wrote ‘I still love you, see last year’s card for full details.’ —Michael McIntyre, comedian
  • If you love them in the morning with their eyes full of crust; if you love them at night with their hair full of rollers, chances are, you’re in love. —Miles Davis, trumpeter and composer
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Valentine’s Day Quotes for Friends

  • Love is a friendship set to music. —Joseph Campbell, author
  • Love many things, for therein lies the true strength, and whosoever loves much performs much, and can accomplish much, and what is done in love is done well. —Vincent Van Gogh, painter
  • Hold a true friend with both hands. —Nigerian Proverb
Couple lying in bed and kissing after reading romantic Valentine's Day quotes

Romantic Valentine’s Day Quotes

  • Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses. —Ann Landers, advice columnist and author
  • The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart. —Helen Keller, author
  • Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage. — Lao Tzu, philosopher
Couple making a heart with their hands at sunset after reading Valentine's day quotes about love

Valentine’s Day Quotes About Love

  • You know it’s love when all you want is that person to be happy, even if you’re not part of their happiness. —Julia Roberts, actress
  • I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., pastor, author and civil rights activist
  • Love is not only something you feel, it is something you do. —David Wilkerson, pastor and author
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Valentine’s Day Quotes for Myself

  • Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. Rumi, poet
  • Loving people live in a loving world. Hostile people live in a hostile world. Same world. —Wayne Dyer, author and speaker
  • Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead. —Oscar Wilde, author
Dog with a heart of his nose with short Valentine's Day quotes

Short Valentine’s Day Quotes

  • At the touch of love everyone becomes a poet. —Plato, philosopher and mathematician
  • Life without love is like a tree without blossoms or fruit. —Khalil Gibran, artist, poet and writer
  • If you would be loved, love, and be lovable. —Benjamin Franklin, author, inventor and statesman
  • The love we give away is the only love we keep. —Elbert Hubbard, author and philosopher

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14 Helpful Tips for When Your Dog Goes Missing

If your dog is lost, your first instinct may be to wander the streets, calling out his name. That’s actually the worst thing you could do. Instead, follow these expert tips and your chances of being reunited with your furry companion are far greater.

The following is an edited excerpt from Poppy in the Wild by Teresa J. Rhyne and has been reprinted with permission by Simon & Schuster, Inc.

1. Stop. Stop what you are doing. Stop chasing your dog, stop calling its name. Stop. Know that every part of this will go against your instincts. Your instincts are wrong and are fear-based. Stop and listen to the experts. Your dog’s life may depend on it.

2. DO NOT CHASE YOUR DOG. This bears repeating. DO NOT CHASE YOUR DOG.

3. DO NOT CALL OUT YOUR DOG’S NAME. Your dog will hear the panic in your voice and think, “If he/she is scared, I’m scared. I better hide!”

4. Call in a pet recovery specialist.

5. Give your dog a way to come home. Leave a door open—especially at night.

6. Do not run around spreading your scent throughout the neighborhood where your dog is lost. You want to establish one place where your scent is that your dog can find its way back to—that may be at home or it may be where your dog was lost (see #11 below). If your scent is all over several square miles, your dog may chase that scent and wander farther off.

7. Put out some dirty laundry that smells like you—socks, underwear, a T-shirt.(Not your whole laundry basket or bedsheets; dogs have a very strong sense of smell, and you don’t want to startle them.) If you can hang a piece of dirty laundry in a tree or bush in front of your home, do so. The wind will carry the scent farther.

8. Get a PR campaign going—you want thousands of eyes on thousands of flyers. Produce as many flyers as you can, and ask volunteers to hang them in the area the dog was last seen and for miles out from that spot.

9. Put up big, bright posters where people are most likely to see them.

10. Do not have volunteers, however well meaning, out searching for your dog. You want people watching from a seated position, observing, and reporting sightings, but not chasing, not following, and not walking around. Activity will cause the dog to hide. A place with lots of humans roaming around will not be viewed as safe by your dog. Give your dog a chance to find its way to a safe spot.

11. Eventually, if your dog doesn’t find its way back to your home, or if it was lost somewhere not familiar to it, your dog will establish a pattern. It will settle down in one locale. You’ll learn where this is by the sightings reported to you by people seeing your signs. This may take a while. Do not give up.

12. Once a locale is established, go to that spot with smelly food and a piece of your dirty laundry and sit, waiting. Your only job is to give the dog a safe space in which to expose itself. Do not call to the dog; do not chase the dog. Do not make movement toward the dog if you see the dog. Just wait. Let the dog find you. They will see you and smell you, long before you see them.

13. Eventually you’ll find where the dog is and be able to set a humane trap.

14. Do not give up.

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13 and Dating

I’m often surprised to hear that some parents allow their pre-teens or younger teens to date.

I’ve even seen some parents encourage it by jokingly introducing the boyfriend as their future son-in-law. They think the relationship is cute until it leaves one of the two involved with a broken heart when the two kids eventually break up.

I know there isn’t a magic age that determines if one is ready to start dating. It really depends on the maturity level of the teen, but dating at an early age may cause long-term relationship issues.

Are you allowing your teen daughter to date at an early age? Here are a few things to consider as you determine whether she is ready.

Teen girls and boys. Photo from 123RF(r).1. Early dating may lead to early sex, especially if your daughter has a steady boyfriend. The longer she’s with her boyfriend, the easier it will become for her to give into the pressures of taking the relationship to the next level. Same thing goes for guys.

2. Dating too early may lead to lots of boyfriends and breakups. I’ve talked to many teen girls who go from boyfriend to boyfriend. With each boyfriend, the teen girl gives away her heart and sometimes engages in sexual activities.

It becomes easier and easier in each relationship. Before you know it, your teen daughter has a promiscuous reputation. Instead, help your teen daughter to discover her interests and talents. This will boost her self-confidence and show her that she can accomplish her goals without frequent boyfriends.

3. Early dating relationships take away from forming same-sex friendships because all their time is spent with the boyfriend. Our girlfriend relationships teach us how to develop interpersonal and social skills that will carry us through life. There will be plenty of time for love.

Pay attention to your daughter’s personality to know when she’s ready to start dating. You will know. She’ll be ready when she is confident, secure in who she is and responsible.

I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world. (John 16:33)