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When I pressed the doctor to describe what Dad\u2019s lifestyle and quality of life after this surgery would likely be, he told me that IF Dad survived the surgery, he would have many months of difficult recovery in a hospital and would most likely need to move into long-term care. It was easy for me to withhold consent for this surgery because I understood his wishes very well.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Collette\u2019s father died 12 hours later. \u201cWhen he took his last breath, I experienced something profoundly beautiful although no words can adequately describe it. It was as if I stood with him inside a portal where boundaries and identities did not exist, only a sublime peace. And still, all these years later, I feel only joy associated with his passing. Together we stood at the threshold of a great mystery, and I have never feared my own death since, and have always been so very happy for him, for passing with such ease.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Collette\u2019s poignant story, which appears on the Conversation Project website<u>,<\/u> illustrates how sharing end-of-life wishes can bring clarity and comfort to families during difficult hospice and dying situations.<\/p>\n<p>The <a href=\"https:\/\/theconversationproject.org\/starter-kits\/\">Conversation Project Starter Kit<\/a> walks individuals and their family members through a process of starting and completing important conversations. Sharing these wishes could help bring families together, notes the website, which is dedicated to helping people talk about their wishes for end-of-life care.<\/p>\n<p>Following, from Dr. Julie Masters, chair of the Department of Gerontology at the University of Nebraska at Omaha, are tips for getting the conversation started (adapted from \u201cHaving the Talk of a Lifetime\u201d (2014); Funeral and Memorial Information Council):<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Don\u2019t stress.<\/strong> Choose a neutral setting and stay calm when having important end-of-life conversations. Keeping the talk on an even keel will help accomplish more.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Have a conversation with someone close to you.<\/strong> Share sensitive topics with close family or friends. Choose someone you trust to talk with or, if you\u2019re helping a senior, make sure they are speaking to someone close to them.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Listen and keep an open mind.<\/strong> Certain topics could generate drastic reactions. Always listen with an open mind and don\u2019t be offended by what you hear.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Move on if it\u2019s uncomfortable.<\/strong> Unless there is a time constraint, move on to another topic if the conversation is uncomfortable. It may be best to return to a conversation that\u2019s causing distress. Some discussions, such as \u201cWho do you want to care for you if you can\u2019t care for yourself,\u201d can cause angst. Before a crisis happens, tread carefully and try to get the answers you need.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Consider using photos and heirlooms as conversation starters.<\/strong> Family heirlooms make good door openers to sensitive conversations. \u201cThat\u2019s so nice you want to leave your garnet pin to your granddaughter. What are other things you would like at the end of your life?\u201d<\/li>\n<li><strong>Express what you would like to have at your own funeral or memorial service.<\/strong> Sensitive conversations can be a two-way street. Tell your loved one what your own wishes are, which could help initiate the conversation with him or her about what they would like.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>\u201cAt some point, adult children need to understand they should be the ones making the decisions,\u201d Masters said. \u201cOne can\u2019t stay in a child\u2019s role. You have to be the adult in the room and make a decision that is in the best interest and safety of a loved one. That requires a willingness to let go of the old self in favor of the new self. For some people, that\u2019s very difficult. It\u2019s hard to let go. 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