The cast-iron hamburger skillet gave me away.<\/p>\n
I was cooking ground beef for dinner. I went to drain the meat\u2014and I couldn\u2019t lift the skillet. I got it a few inches off the stovetop then it clunked back down. I took a deep breath. What was wrong with me?<\/p>\n
\u201cAshley!\u201d I called to my teenage daughter. \u201cCan you give me a hand in the kitchen?\u201d<\/p>\n
Ashley came in and laughed when I told her what I needed. \u201cYou\u2019re not that old, Mom,\u201d she joked as she drained the meat. She went back to her homework. I went back to making dinner. Maybe it wouldn\u2019t happen again. Maybe I was just tired. Maybe…<\/p>\n
I leaned against the counter. I looked at my arms. I pictured the bones inside them. Who was I fooling? Two years earlier I\u2019d been diagnosed with osteopenia, or low-bone density. I\u2019d done nothing about it. No medication, no exercise, no change in my diet, even though the doctor told me I was a high risk for osteoporosis.<\/p>\n
Was I finally paying the price for my denial? I hoped not! I didn\u2019t have time to get sick. I was raising three kids and running a 200-student church preschool. Besides, I was only in my forties. People in their forties don\u2019t get bone disease\u2014right? I\u2019d actually tried medication for a month after the osteopenia diagnosis. But I didn\u2019t really feel like taking the pills. I never refilled the prescription.<\/p>\n
I finished mashing some potatoes and took down plates from the cupboard. As long as I was being honest with myself, I might as well admit I\u2019d been ignoring my body a whole lot longer than two years.<\/p>\n
It had been twice that long since I first broke my foot helping take care of my ailing grandmother in Oklahoma. I got up in the middle of the night to check on her and tripped over a step. I hobbled around until I got back home. To my annoyance the doctor put me in a cast and told me not to walk. As if!<\/p>\n
My husband, Geoff, and the kids offered to cook and clean, but I knew the house wouldn\u2019t run right without me in charge. \u201cThat foot took far too long to heal,\u201d the doctor chided me when the cast came off. \u201cI\u2019m recommending that you get a bone-density scan.\u201d<\/p>\n
I skipped the scan. The church preschool was just starting up and I still worked my old job, assessing developmentally delayed children for the local school district. That job stressed me out because often I had to convince deeply reluctant parents their children had a problem. My heart ached for those parents. But why did they resist admitting the obvious, especially when treatment was available?<\/p>\n
I forgot about my bones until a year later, when I was making my older son Ian\u2019s bed one morning and whacked my foot into an iron bedpost. Broken again! A different doctor also recommended a bone-density scan. When the foot took twice as long to heal as it should have, I finally broke down and got the scan.<\/p>\n
I\u2019d never heard of osteopenia. Well, at least it\u2019s not osteoporosis<\/em>, I thought. The doctor recommended medication, calcium supplements and exercise to strengthen my bones and muscles.<\/p>\n \u201cThe longer you wait to make these changes,\u201d he warned, \u201cthe more likely your condition will worsen.\u201d I nodded, but inside all I could think was, Not possible<\/em>. As in, not possible for a young, active woman like me to be hobbled by such an old person\u2019s disease.<\/p>\n I heaped hamburger onto the plates and gave everyone a dollop of mashed potatoes. Had I waited too long? I kept a cheerful face for the rest of the evening, and soon Geoff and I were in bed, lights out. Only then did the fear I\u2019d been suppressing burst forth. Lord!<\/em> I cried out. What should I do?<\/em><\/p>\n I couldn\u2019t help thinking of my great-grandmother and great-aunt, both painfully stooped with osteoporosis in their waning years.<\/p>\n For some reason my mind drifted back to my old school district job. I remembered one mother in particular. I\u2019d just finished assessing her preschool-age daughter in a diagnostic play space, a miniature kitchen. While the little girl made play pies, I calmly told the mother what challenges her daughter would face.<\/p>\n \u201cBut that\u2019s not possible,\u201d the mother insisted. \u201cYou just don\u2019t know her. She\u2019s fine at home with me.\u201d<\/p>\n Not possible<\/em>. Those were my words. I remembered the rest of my conversation with the mother, how reassuring I\u2019d been about treatment. How on earth could I have been so good at doling out advice all these years\u2014and so deaf to my own problems?<\/p>\n God had been answering my prayer, telling me what I should do, all along. Every time I ignored my doctors, my family, my own body, I was ignoring the voice of the Healer himself. Denying my problem was denying God the chance to help me.<\/p>\n I made a lot of changes after that night, and no one was more surprised than I to discover just how painless they were. I resumed taking my medication. I took up Jazzercise and loved it. I steamed vegetables for dinner and no one in my meat and potatoes household complained. I even allowed myself a bubble bath each weeknight to reduce stress.<\/p>\n Most of all, I learned to set aside my pride, denial and fear, and listen to that healing voice of God. Praying and writing in my journal each morning, I hear his message loud and clear. My body is a gift. I need to take care of it. And so I do.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" The cast-iron hamburger skillet gave me away. I was cooking ground beef for dinner. I went to drain the meat\u2014and I couldn\u2019t lift the skillet. I got it a few inches off the stovetop then it clunked back down. I took a deep breath. What was wrong with me? \u201cAshley!\u201d I called to my teenage […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":114,"featured_media":29733,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"ep_exclude_from_search":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[360],"tags":[],"ppma_author":[941],"class_list":["post-22175","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-coping-with-illness"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n